You might have noticed that the tone of my blog has changed in the last year.
And, that I have not been writing very much. I feel like this has been a time of fallow, where the fields of my mind needed to rest, absorb, and figure out where I want this blog to go.
My blog has actually changed a lot since I started in 2010. I started out writing about depression, moved on to mommyhood, flirted with “Say What you Mean”, and seem to have settled on gender and sexism.
Then I lost some subscribers.
I hope it was because they were only interested in the Mommy-Side of me, and not because of incorrect assumptions about what it means to be a feminist and how I try to resist the narrow box of what gender roles say I can do, or who my daughters can be.
To clarify: Yes, I am a feminist.
I also think that we need to start thinking about feminism and how we can start communicating this perspective without immediately alienating people.
For a lot of you out there, feminism is not what you think it is.
Being a feminist does not mean that I hate men. Being a feminist means that I don’t think that anyone should be treated as less or be given less opportunities because of their reproductive organs. It means that you can be whatever you want and not have your life dictated by gender roles that say you cannot cry if you are a boy or that you have to wear pink if you are a girl.
That there are more categories than just boy and girl.
I do not think that men need to be torn down so that women can be elevated. Men are affected by our current social order too. And not always in a good way.
I get a lot of backlash from people online when they catch on that I am a feminist. Then, suddenly, my point of view is, as one fella put it, “invalid.”
I don’t care, I keep on…
And it’s not going to stop.
What are you thoughts on feminism? What does it mean to you?
Please, be honest. I really want to know.